Life is; a series of unfortunate events tied together by a string of beautiful moments…

Two weeks and two days ago I married my partner in life. It was set in a small dim lit restaurant bar with about fifty of our closest framily. The morning of, there was supposed to be a torrential rain storm but it ended up being the most perfect sun shining first of December. As if the universe had opened up its eyes and said today you will marry your soulmate and we will rejoice with you. It was then that I realized where my life had taken me was where I was meant to be, standing side by side with the man I had dreamt up.

Marriage is pretty much the same as living with the person, if you had the option to do so before. For those whose marriage is bringing them together for the first time, may the Lord have mercy on your souls. From my personal experience, a practice run prior to the real deal, makes saying “I Do” feel like a check box on your honey do list, in a more romantic way. Marriage is also a unity of a similar belief, a belief that marriage is the most sacred act you can accomplish together.  There is no other out for a marriage that’s built on solid ground. You will stick together though good and bad times, rich or poor moments, in sickness and in health til death do you part.

Those vows will get you through the grey times of your marriage. They will taunt you during a time that you want to run away. It’s those very words that will guide you out of the tunnel of darkness, the light to find your way back to your spouse. There is no marriage that ends abruptly, they are forever lessons in life that teach you to trudge slowly, choose wisely because when the ground starts shaking you’re going to wish you picked the right person to save you from falling under.

Fourteen days after the best day of my life, a curveball knocked me off my two happy feet. A sudden reminder that marriage ain’t always a pretty place. Life happens just as it always does and will test the promises we made to each other. I’m not going to lie that same day I planned my out strategy. I was ready to just walk away and say Lord the life lesson you have put in front of me is too much too soon for me to handle. Selfishly I wanted to live in the state of bliss for as long as I could. But I vowed before witnesses that I would never leave, so I talked myself off the l ledge and made plans to be the solution as opposed to another problem.

welcome to marriage..

Love More, Peace More and Roar More.

Your Returning Married, Raw and Honest Spirit Guide, 

Mrs. DeAlmeida

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  1. Cherry

    December 20, 2018 at 1:02 am

    You can be leaving my ass in suspense like that I better a a full on detail story about what happened ! Haha u can always call me babe I’m a phone call away ! Love what u wrote and love these pictures !

  2. Cherry

    December 20, 2018 at 1:03 am

    Cant* sorry lol

  3. Jenipher

    December 20, 2018 at 8:43 am

    Your voice/energy is so strong I feel your words with your voice in my head, this is great girl! ❤️

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